When is enough enough?

"Freelance stage manager/executive assistant" says it all. Any job title the involves ".../executive assistant" means that you will be licking someone's a$$ all day long as well as being expected to do the ".../ " part, basically on your lunch hour and for free. Don't "toy" with the idea of quitting. DO IT. In the meantime, drop your sense of humor or your willingness to diffuse, etc., etc. When you're in the middle of a job and you've just had another thing heaped on you, remind her AT THAT MOMENT, NOT LATER, that you are busy with something else. And have her suggest when you can finish the job you've started if she demands you take up a new task. DON'T SAVE IT UP for a meeting at some other date, and don't get BULLIED into thinking there's going to be some time LATER for you to state your grievances. SETTLE IT AT THE MOMENT IT OCCURS. This woman is clearly a first-rate @unt. Don't clutter up your life trying to please her in any way other than getting the task at hand done. Don't look for praise, but remind her that "belittlements" qualify as harrassment. Is there a human resources department at your theater? People who act like this have been known to give lousy recommendations to even the greatest employees, so don't count on a good one. She's holding an anvil over your head and she's abusive. Don't tangle all this up with girly-friendship and wedding guest b.s. BIG MISTAKE. But, they're already invited. You can't dis-invite them now, but I wouldn't be surprised if she didn't attend. She sounds like a rrrrrrrrreeeeeeeeeeeeeeal a$$hole. ACKNOWLEDGE THAT!!!! I can already hear the, "but, but, but" 's coming out of your mouth. There's no BUT about it. She's a jerk, not because of the stress, or the genius, or anything else--but because she can be a jerk to you and she believes you have to put up with it. That is the definition of an a$$hole. ADMIT IT FIRST. Then you'll be able to take more proactive steps and get the hell away from her. And the genius. You need to tabulate how much you get paid and how many hours of work that equals of your time; you have to stand your ground here. This was already discussed. You stated that you'd need a second job, therefore this theater job should be seen as a part-time job. REMEMBER THAT. Also, this far into the production, they NEED YOU. If you turn the tables on them now, they can't run out and get just anyone new to do what you do. REALIZE your own worth in this situation and start leveraging, sister. This person is not a friend. She's using your "friendship" as a weapon against you. THAT is NOT a friend.